Paying for our adoption

We just paid our homestudy fee! Adoption can be expensive, but there is a way to pay for it without having to get into debt. Background: I haven’t been too active on this blog since I recently have been focusing more on my herdesignedlife blog, a personal finance and lifestyle blog for women. But for…

Adoption Update March 2018

These last few months have been super busy and I haven’t been able to write my thoughts down. I’ve been working some long days at work and recently paid my undergrad loans off ( a long-time goal of mine ). Many people have been curious about the adoption process and how it has been going….

How to support your friend who is adopting

So you’ve just heard that your friend is adopting and you are so excited for them! You want them to feel supported, but how do you help them? Here are a few ways that you can help them through this trying time. Be respectful of their decision.¬†They’ve most likely looked through other options before deciding…

Two Countries One Heart

Many people might be curious about why we chose an international adoption instead of going through foster care, a private adoption, or having our own child. There are many reasons that shaped our opinion of how we wanted to approach the structure of our family such as travel time, finances, wait times, etc. In the…

The Planning Period

The most beautiful thing happens when you look back on your memories. Situations that once seemed like an insurmountable challenge, bloom into the moments that you draw strength to overcome your biggest fears. After three and a half years, Pete had finished graduate school and started his job as a Physical Therapist. I decided to…

The Story Unfolds

Fast forward nearly one year later, Pete and I married on March 21rst, 2014.   After we married, we moved from sunny California to Michigan and purchased our first home.     I started teaching Kindergarten in Detroit and Pete began his graduate school for his Doctor of Physical Therapy.     During the next…

The Starting Line

If my heart had been a rocket launching into space, it would have been the Apollo. My dreams of holding children in my arms with my husband quickly evaporated and were replaced with a black nothingness I was scared to face. It was as if the world turned upside down and someone had knocked the air out of me.

Now panic set in as I carefully chose my next words.

Misunderstanding, I asked, “You never want to have children?” trying with difficulty not to let my voice quiver.